I encountered this question on Facebook recently:
“Question for women: as we have collectively developed and embodied the primary masculine principles in our way of life (through the many waves of feminism), what do you find the most difficult or challenging about balancing the feminine principles in your life as well as expressing your feminine self?”
Two of the responses echoed one another in that economic issues are within the core of what is broken about how we are practicing femininity and masculinity in the modern world.
“Having to work to bring in income to pay for my life. If that was taken care of, I could live freely and delve more into my creativity/femininity.”
“How can I make money in a feminine way? How can I shift my mindset that money is masculine and I have to work my butt off to have enough?”
These are key concerns and clearly a source of struggle for countless women. What’s encouraging is that there is a solution right under our noses; however, it’s shrouded in stigma. It lies in the fact that the thing most men value above all else, which they are willing to work for and to pay to support and access, is feminine radiance (which includes, but is not limited to, sex).
This used to be represented by men wielding full financial responsibility for and jurisdiction over their wives and children, until, in earlier iterations of feminism, we were taught that, for women to find financial independence, the way was to simply do what men do: to go find “jobs” outside the home, while continuing to live within the domestic model of monogamous marriage and nuclear family just as before.
This influx of laborers resulted in doubling the potential workforce, stagnating wages to the point that it now takes two incomes to finance a household, the costs of which increased simultaneously due to the added burdens of childcare and other domestic support required to allow both adults to work. This is extremely inefficient, and it does not result in us achieving the kind of feminine independence we hoped for; rather, we are now tied both to our relationships AND our jobs in order to merely survive. In addition, taking on this additional workload detracts from the time and energy we could otherwise devote to the cultivation of the radiance that the men in our lives want to experience through us.
A better solution, then, is to access our inner Courtesan archetype and focus on honing and expressing our femininity and sexual empowerment and, instead of allowing one man to “purchase” access to this via marriage or monogamy, allow whatever number of men we choose to take up only temporary “leases,” so to speak (as our sponsors/patrons, according to the support they provide), for only as long as it pleases us.
At the same time, by choosing to physically live with other women on this path instead of with the men in our lives, we can achieve domestic support (including childcare) that revolves around feminine ideals, safeguarding our romantic relationships from the stresses placed on them by cohabitation and by past misguided attempts to have one partner fill the role of an entire village. Men can then have the opportunity to support our communities and our freedom simultaneously, and in return get to experience the best of what we can create through our femininity, without them having ownership of it.
This is just a brief summary and doesn’t cover all aspects, but I am working on building an intentional community around these ideas. I am hosting a small partial prototype around the corner from the PaleoFX event in Austin this week, with a community meeting on Sunday evening the 28th, for anyone who is in the area and interested to learn more about these ways and how they might participate.